How to Have a Happy Birthday with Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming #038

July 15, 2025•3 min read

About My Guest

Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming is a birthday aficionado who is dedicated to helping people harness the transformational power of their birthdays so they can experience more joy, meaning, and fulfillment in their lives. Growing up, Tamar had a string of happy, sad and terrible birthdays until she realized that having a fulfilling birthday was entirely up to her. In her award-winning book How to Have a Happy Birthday, Tamar explores why birthdays matter, why they can be hard for many of us, and what we can do to fully put ourselves in the center of our day. She has also written an accompanying workbook, the How to Have a Happy Birthday Workbook was released in January 2025, published by Date Palm Books.

Summary

I literally canceled my birthday this year - told everyone "don't acknowledge it, I'm not celebrating." But guess what? It didn't work. I still felt terrible.

In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with birthday aficionado Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming, author of the award-winning book "How to Have a Happy Birthday," to explore why so many of us struggle with our special day and how to transform that relationship.

Tamar believes birthdays are the most spiritually powerful day of our year - the day we began our physical existence. Yet about half of us are what she calls "birthday avoidant," either dreading our birthdays or just not caring about them.

What we cover:

Why childhood birthday experiences shape our adult relationship with celebration
The connection between birthday avoidance and self-worth
How societal pressures around aging affect women's birthday joy
Practical strategies for planning a meaningful birthday celebration
Why buying yourself a gift is an act of self-affirmation
How to use your birthday as a portal for self-care and personal growth
What to do if your birthday falls on a major holiday

Where to Listen/Watch:

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