Why We Ghost Our Own Goals & The Mindset Shifts To Break The Habit of Self-Sabotage - Nicki Thompson #031

Why We Ghost Our Own Goals & The Mindset Shifts To Break The Habit of Self-Sabotage - Nicki Thompson #031

March 26, 20253 min read

About My Guest

Nicki Thompson is an expert in combining fasting and mindset shifts to help women regain control, build confidence, and achieve lasting health.

With over 20 years of experience in the fitness space and as the founder of Fasting with Nicki, she has guided women through breaking the self-sabotage cycle—including overcoming emotional eating—by providing practical tools to reprogram the mental patterns that keep them stuck.

Her approach goes beyond the surface—no generic meal plans or willpower battles. Instead, Nicki focuses on identity-based change and mindset mastery, helping her clients transform from the inside out. She also teaches women to understand and reframe the emotional triggers behind cravings, making it possible to stop turning to food for comfort and start aligning their actions with their values. This, she believes, is the real key to breaking free from willpower battles for good.

She’s also the creator of the two-week mindset reset guide—a step-by-step resource designed to reprogram self-sabotaging patterns before even starting a fast or diet. In addition, she runs group fasting sessions called The Fasting Effect, which help women reach their health and weight goals without burning out or giving up the foods they love.

Nicki’s mission is simple: to empower women to stop ghosting their goals and start living in alignment with their best selves—confident, healthy, and unstoppable.

When she’s not coaching or creating content, you can find Nicki lifting weights, diving into mindset books, or planning her next adventure.

Summary

In this perspective shifting episode, Nicki reveals the powerful connection between fasting and mindset work that has helped countless women overcome emotional eating and self-sabotage patterns. With over 20 years of fitness experience, she shares her groundbreaking approach to "ghosting our goals" and explains why willpower alone always fails. Discover the identity-based changes and thought pattern shifts that create lasting transformation—without restrictive diets or meal plans. If you've ever started strong on Monday only to crash by Wednesday, this conversation holds the missing piece you've been searching for.

Key Insights:

  • Nikki emphasizes identity-based change over temporary fixes.

  • Understanding the ego's role in self-sabotage is crucial.

  • Ghosting goals refers to the all-or-nothing mindset.

  • Real change comes from within, not just external goals.

  • Fasting can enhance self-awareness and mindfulness.

  • Mindset should precede habit changes for lasting results.

  • Small actions can expand your comfort zone over time.

  • Affirmations can help shift negative self-talk.

  • Fasting is a tool, not a one-size-fits-all solution.

  • Laying a foundation of healthy habits is essential before fasting.

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Chapters

00:00 Understanding Self-Sabotage and Ghosting Goals

07:59 Mindset Shifts for Long-Term Success

08:35 Overcoming the Ego for Lasting Change

09:34 Shifting Focus: From External Goals to Identity

13:31 The Power of Affirmations and Mindset

17:20 Fasting: A Tool for Mindset and Self-Awareness

27:55 Starting Your Fasting Journey

33:20 Unique Experiences and Personal Growth

Resources

Get Nicki's 2 Week Mindset Rest - A Blueprint for a Successful Fasting Journey—No Cravings, No Willpower Battles

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