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Have you ever been in a situation where you felt confused, frustrated, or not sure how to deal with something? I bet you wanted to immediately turn to your best friend, mom, or trusted confidant and ask for advice. It's natural and healthy for us to seek outside sources for guidance. But what if those friends or advisers weren't available? What if you couldn't reach someone else for help?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret for how to give the best advice to...yourself!

I didn't learn this technique from a book

This isn't something I read in a book, learned in a seminar, or took a course on. I'm actually quite surprised that it has taken me this long to figure out something so simple. This technique is just a life lesson that I learned through making a long series of mistakes before finally learning how to grow and thrive from all of those past mistakes.

Motherhood has many positive aspects to it, but the one I am embracing these days is the ability to see life from a different perspective.

My ah-ha moment

One day, I was arguing with my husband (which never happens 🤣), and I had a moment where my mind strayed a bit to the realization that I really wished I had advice from a friend in that very moment. I was stuck in our argument, I didn't want our little dispute to continue to spiral downwards as it was, and I couldn't figure out how to proceed in a positive way.

Then I had my ah-ha moment. If I had a friend in the exact same predicament as I was in, what would I tell her? What advice would I give her? There it was. My ah-ha moment. I needed to take a step back from the moment, take a look from the outside, and give myself some advice, just as I would give a friend advice.

I was going to stop looking to everyone else for guidance and rely on my own inner compass. I was going to give the best advice to myself.

And it worked

This technique was so simple and yet so effective. I guess we all need to just take a step back sometimes. There are moments in arguments or difficult circumstances when the best thing you can do is to take a different perspective. Take a hot minute to just breathe and think and feel. Pretend you are a friend that you are giving advice to...then use those words of advice on yourself.

I wish I could say that I'm able to utilize this technique every time I argue with someone, but I'm getting better. For some things, practice doesn't make perfect but it sure does get easier!

How do you handle difficult moments? What are your tips for navigating arguments or challenging circumstances? Let me know in the comments below!

Thank you for listening, I hope you can make use of this technique on how to give the best advice to yourself!